Before We Held You in Our Arms
You don’t need to be a child to believe in miracles. Adults can also hope for their dreams to come true, especially when it’s about becoming a parent.
Before We Held You in Our Arms draws on the love and desire of parenthood long before the baby cuddles and snuggles. While the journey may be filled with challenges and hardship, the outcome is unimaginably wondrous.
The greatest joy in life is holding you in our arms for the first time . . . and the second time. And for forever.
About Me
Hi! I'm EMILY FEIT, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I live in Los Angeles with my Three Children (which includes a set of fraternal twins!) My Husband and Dog. And NOW! (I can't believe I am saying this!) Author of a Children’s Picture Book 'Before We Held You In Our Arms'
All these years I have been “dark”, but now I'm No Longer. I'm a woman who went through many rounds of IVF and Surrogacy, and I feel that this book is too important not to share it with the world!
My husband and I began Feit 4 KidZ, an interest-free Loan Program, to assist in alleviating the financial burden of IVF back in 2013 with the help of the Jewish Free Loan Association. This first book aims to support the Infertility Community. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Check Out Emily Feit on KCAL News discussing her New Book, IVF, and Infertility Struggles
Readers' Favorite 5-Star Review
Before We Held You In Our Arms is a children's book written by Emily Feit and illustrated by INDOS Studios. The author tackles the all-too-real issue of how difficult it is sometimes to bring a new life into the world when fertility is a problem. Although the parents of the child want so badly to conceive, they often feel jealous of other parents who have expanded their family so easily. Potential parents dream of the magical day a child will someday come into their lives, yet feel like failures because they cannot make it happen through wishful thinking alone. Although the parents did everything right, visiting many doctors, taking many vitamins, eating special foods while avoiding others, and even making wishes in fountains, sometimes it just is not meant to be. But in those extraordinary times when all those sacrifices pay off and they become the blessed parents of a newborn baby, they need that child to know how, even before the child was born, they were loved so very much.
I like the message that this book conveys. With so many kids screaming at their parents (such as when I was a child) about how they wish they had never been born, or telling their parents that they probably regret having them at all, Emily Feit's beautiful book explains to children that they are wanted very much and that their parents fought hard to have them. Some children even feel so desperate in their lives, feeling unwanted and unloved, that they may run away from home just for alone time or to make their parents understand what life would be like without them. But when a parent has fought tooth and nail to conceive in the first place, their child needs to know that they were truly loved from well before the moment the child was born and was being held safely in their arms. I highly recommend Before We Held You In Our Arms to the children of all families who have had fertility issues in the past.
“Emily Feit's beautiful book explains to children that they are wanted very much and that their parents fought hard to have them.”
Dr. Boostanfar Interviews Emily Feit
Dr. Boostanfar speaks to Emily Feit regarding her new book “Before We Held You in Our Arms” and Emily’s fertility journey.
Thinking Aloud with Rabbi Nolan Lebovitz
In Episode 10 of Thinking Aloud, Rabbi Lebovitz interviews author (and VBS member) Emily Feit and Dr. Robert Boostanfar. They discuss the process of IVF (in vitro fertilization) and addressing other fertility issues -- including its physical, emotional, and spiritual challenges. Emily also explains the journey of publishing her new children's book about the same topic, "Before We Held You in Our Arms."